To other females: If a girl mentions not wanting to be an "old mum" - what age would that be implying to be wanting to have a baby by?

Is a kid at 20 a bit too young in your opinion?

I don't plan on having a kid ever. But 20 in my opinion is too young.

Saying that though, my mum was 19/20 when she had me. Although, under the conditions she was under, (Anorexic, and a lot of stress from many other things) she wasn't unaware til about 5 months. Which I guess makes things different?

I think though, if I was to have a kid, I'd wait til the very least, 25. Probably more likely 27-30. I wouldn't worry about being an 'old' mum, unless I was having a kid at 45-50. but I'd definitely want the oppotunity to go around the world and see things, before having kids. (IF, I have kids.)

Sex. I'd love it if I didn't hate it. Always worrying about contraception to prevent STD's, pregnancy, destruction of what was already a fine friendship...


Well at least I'm sure STD's aren't a problem in my present state of discontent.

Playing Red Dead Redemption while listening to Pendulum and I got kicked off of my horse because I was tapping the A button in beat with the music

[Keeker]

To other females: If a girl mentions not wanting to be an "old mum" - what age would that be implying to be wanting to have a baby by?

Is a kid at 20 a bit too young in your opinion?

I don't plan on having a kid ever. But 20 in my opinion is too young.

Saying that though, my mum was 19/20 when she had me. Although, under the conditions she was under, (Anorexic, and a lot of stress from many other things) she wasn't unaware til about 5 months. Which I guess makes things different?

I think though, if I was to have a kid, I'd wait til the very least, 25. Probably more likely 27-30. I wouldn't worry about being an 'old' mum, unless I was having a kid at 45-50. but I'd definitely want the oppotunity to go around the world and see things, before having kids. (IF, I have kids.)

I was 31 when I had my first. I didn't feel old. I'm glad I waited until then because I think I made a far better, wiser, mum than I would have at 20.

To other females: If a girl mentions not wanting to be an "old mum" - what age would that be implying to be wanting to have a baby by?

Is a kid at 20 a bit too young in your opinion?

I'd take that to mean 25-30. That's about when I'd like to start having children, if work permits it. I kinda plan on being a very work-oriented person, but I'd love to fit in kids if I had the time. If I really had to wait, I guess I'd start at around 30. I'd like to have all my childbearing over with by 35, and I want three kids, so...you do the math

Hmm. Further to my earlier post, perhaps I'm strange but I don't 'plan' on anything at the best of times, and I certainly don't plan on having a child or how many I'd like. At all. A fair few years down the line then perhaps I'd give it serious contemplation, but now- Not a chance. Unless divine conception suddenly strikes

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

I just see that as a means to an end I guess. Not to say it won't suck though.

no children for me to many bad genes that could pass on

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

I just see that as a means to an end I guess. Not to say it won't suck though.

Hehe, totally

[Keeker]

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

I just see that as a means to an end I guess. Not to say it won't suck though.

I won't say it's a barrel of laughs but it's not THAT bad and under normal circumstances it's only a few hours out of your lives. (This coming from a woman where a lot of things went wrong ) I have many friends and acquaintances who popped them out in a couple of hours flat and were up and about in no time at all. One even turned up in the school car park the day after giving birth to collect the rest of her kids from school and show off her day-old baby!!

My only advice would be to make sure you are fit and strong before you get pregnant in the first place, and keep fit during pregnancy because it really does help your chances of a natural birth and to bounce back a lot faster afterwards.

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

I just see that as a means to an end I guess. Not to say it won't suck though.

I won't say it's a barrel of laughs but it's not THAT bad and under normal circumstances it's only a few hours out of your lives. (This coming from a woman where a lot of things went wrong ) I have many friends and acquaintances who popped them out in a couple of hours flat and were up and about in no time at all. One even turned up in the school car park the day after giving birth to collect the rest of her kids from school and show off her day-old baby!!

My only advice would be to make sure you are fit and strong before you get pregnant in the first place, and keep fit during pregnancy because it really does help your chances of a natural birth and to bounce back a lot faster afterwards.

Cheers, mum

[Keeker]

The whole process of childbirth completely sickens me though. The pain, process, indignity and vulnerability of it all is both 100% terrifying and disgusting. Bleurgh.

I just see that as a means to an end I guess. Not to say it won't suck though.

I won't say it's a barrel of laughs but it's not THAT bad and under normal circumstances it's only a few hours out of your lives. (This coming from a woman where a lot of things went wrong ) I have many friends and acquaintances who popped them out in a couple of hours flat and were up and about in no time at all. One even turned up in the school car park the day after giving birth to collect the rest of her kids from school and show off her day-old baby!!

My only advice would be to make sure you are fit and strong before you get pregnant in the first place, and keep fit during pregnancy because it really does help your chances of a natural birth and to bounce back a lot faster afterwards.

Cheers, mum

Have you noticed there's some sort of weird conflict between childless people and parents going on lately on the internet? Didn't notice that earlier, but now there's kind of mini-baby boom, so there's plenty of parenting info being published by portals, lots of discussion about forums etc. and sooner or later bizarre conflict begins. Seeing people gather in "childless clubs" or fresh parents making lenghty rants about immature childless fuckwits is totally new to me. Like suddenly there's thousands of people desperately needing validation of their life choices.

Best bit - media seem to incite this stuff, news portal I browse daily links "most interesting" threads off their forums on the frontpage and pretty much daily there's something about parents or about singles. Today it's the topic about child-free hotel, for example - flame war starts about seventh post down.

[Keeker]

Have you noticed there's some sort of weird conflict between childless people and parents going on lately on the internet? Didn't notice that earlier, but now there's kind of mini-baby boom, so there's plenty of parenting info being published by portals, lots of discussion about forums etc. and sooner or later bizarre conflict begins. Seeing people gather in "childless clubs" or fresh parents making lenghty rants about immature childless fuckwits is totally new to me. Like suddenly there's thousands of people desperately needing validation of their life choices.

Best bit - media seem to incite this stuff, news portal I browse daily links "most interesting" threads off their forums on the frontpage and pretty much daily there's something about parents or about singles. Today it's the topic about child-free hotel, for example - flame war starts about seventh post down.

Yes, I've seen it on TV too. Kinda weird.

Och, I only started breeding so I had someone to look after me when I'm old. (Notwithstanding the basic instinctual drive to pass on my DNA for a little bit of immortality!)

[djskrimp]

I like the practise of making kids. A lot.